Maxed out

Jim Gaffigan does a hilarious bit about having 4 kids. (You can watch it here. It’s worth watching.) But my favorite part goes like this:

“You want to know what it’s like to have 4 kids? Just imagine you’re drowning. And then somebody hands you a baby.”

Oh, MAN has that been true for me. I feel like I’m busy all day every day but I don’t get anything done. I am managing, just barely and with much help from Brian, to keep us all in clean clothes and fed every day. (These kids and their incessant need to eat. Three meals a day they want! What’s with that?!) But my hobbies? My side projects? Haaaaaa. I wanted to get the kids’ baby books finished this summer (except Lydia’s, obviously.) I worked on them…not at all. I’ve written here before about the cross stitch birth announcements I do for each kid. Well. I’m STILL working on Daniel’s. And Brian and I had this conversation a few weeks ago:

Me (showing him a pattern I like): What do you think about this? For Lydia’s birth announcement stitchery?

Brian: (Long pause) It’s fine.

Me: Do you not like it? I could pick something else.

Brian: No, no, no, I do. It’s good. It’ll be a really nice gift for you to give her. (Pause) When she graduates from high school.

And at the rate I’m going that’s about right. When I do get a spare minute there are always dishes to be done, or stuffΒ to be cleaned, or there’s something pressing I need to work on. I am forcing myself to carve out time for blogging, but there are just not enough hours in the day for all the things I’d like to be working on.

When I first wrote about the challenges of 4 kids this young (particularly Daniel & Lydia seeming so close in age) my sister informed me that it would suck. For 18 months at least. She’s knows what she’s talking about too- her 2nd and 3rd are only 13 months apart. And I fully expect that she’s right. I do see a light at the end of this tunnel, because next year not only does Will start kindergarten, Daniel will be in the district preschool program. (At age 3 kids leave Early Intervention and are eligible for services through the school district.) So in a year I’ll suddenly have 3 kids in school programs instead of 1. Lydia will be 18 months old.

But right now? Right now I’m maxed out.



14 thoughts on “Maxed out

  1. One of my friends just finished the baby quilt for her 18YO. The 15YO has been told that his will go to his first child. (She only has the two…) Another friend is finishing the sweater she started knitting when her 23YO was a baby. He’s #4. You’re doing OK.

  2. I had that year this past year. Stuck at home, through Minnesota’s worst winter in like 100 years, with a needy infant and a 4 yo that NEVER STOPPED TALKING. I am now looking at a school year with the big two gone from 7 ish to 3:30 ish (we have full-day K here) and just me and a toddler at home. I…don’t know what I’ll do with myself. Ha ha. Anyway, this is exactly how I know deep in my non-negotiable heart that we are finished building our family. This is as many needs as I can handle without being a (total) grinch. Hang in there. Each month with Lydia will get easier, Daniel will slowly become more independent and you will get back little moments to breathe. In the meantime, have lots of cake for breakfast.

    • OH MY GOSH the TALKING. All the time talking. I’m a little worried about that, because when Kalena’s in school Will wants to do all his talking TO ME.

      And don’t worry. I did have cake for breakfast.

  3. Girl! Do I ever understand! Ruby and Eli are 15mo apart and Ruby and Wyatt are 8 lol I live in crazy town. It gets easier. I know you know that. Thanks for making me laugh today. πŸ™‚

  4. I am so happy to hear that it looks like I’m right. It feels good to be right sometimes, even if it is sadly being right about things being rough for a long time. I was just re-reading and old post about how I wasn’t able to scrapbook for nearly a year so I was waaaay behind, but now as the dust has settled I’ve caught up more than I was BEFORE the year-long hiatus… so of course it gets better. But you already knew that πŸ™‚ Perhaps it’ll be Lydia’s middle-school graduation gift. A mom can dream, right?

    • I’m still hoping for finished by the time she starts kindergarten πŸ™‚ And good to hear about the scrapbooking, because I was pretty sure I’d NEVER get caught up. (Of course, I’m not taking NEARLY as many pictures as I used to, so maybe I will!)

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